I am in tears
I am consumed with sadness and I am having a really hard time handling it right now. Lexi's developmental issues are starting to get to me. All the babies on my mothering board are so far ahead of her. I feel like I have an infant still. I can't stop cryinging. I feel like I have failed as a mother. Am I not spending enough time with her? Am I not stimulating her enough? WHAT AM I DOING WRONG???
Here is what my daughter is not doing yet.
*crawling
*standing
*cruising
*pulling herself up
*talking (she babbles, but not all the time)
*feeding herself
*eating all types of solid foods (she eats some, but meats she still isn't doing that great with)
blowing kisses
clapping her hands
I am worn out emotionally. The doc doesn't want to put her in occupational therapy until she has been in the brace for a while and see how she is developing. Here is what she IS doing.
*sitting (for the most part)
*reaching for EVERYTHING
*some babbling but not all the time
*rolling from belly to back in brace
*reaching into boxes for things she wants.
Thats not really great for a 15 month old............ I just don't know what to do. What if there is something really wrong with her? What are we going to do?
Here is what my daughter is not doing yet.
*crawling
*standing
*cruising
*pulling herself up
*talking (she babbles, but not all the time)
*feeding herself
*eating all types of solid foods (she eats some, but meats she still isn't doing that great with)
blowing kisses
clapping her hands
I am worn out emotionally. The doc doesn't want to put her in occupational therapy until she has been in the brace for a while and see how she is developing. Here is what she IS doing.
*sitting (for the most part)
*reaching for EVERYTHING
*some babbling but not all the time
*rolling from belly to back in brace
*reaching into boxes for things she wants.
Thats not really great for a 15 month old............ I just don't know what to do. What if there is something really wrong with her? What are we going to do?
Posted by Jeanne at 9:18 AM::
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6 Comments:
Well, you know my feelings about all of this. You're feelings are absolutely valid, but you're doing everything for Lexi possible. She's not "behind" anywhere except where she's being held back by the brace. Otherwise she's pretty danged normal.
Have to agree with Alex ! My cousins children (both of them) didnt crawl until they were 22 months old. The only reason being, they were happy just sitting and reaching! She had a brace so she isn't behind at all. Just catching up in her own time.
I think I've said this before, babe, but that's the danger of birth month boards. We're always trying to compare our babies. If not for the board, what would your feelings be? Probably some concerns about her motor skills but you'd also be more secure in the knowledge that would all change as she heals and her brace comes off.
There are around 100 moms on our board. A handful of babies are "super-achievers" and the rest seem to move along at their own pace. It's just that the super-achievers seem at the forefront because that's what you notice. The ones that move along at their own pace don't discuss things as much and might not "stand out"! I think Lexi is at a very normal spot in her development, with the exception of the brace, which is beyond your control.
I'm not minimizing your feelings, because I know it's hard, just trying to help you put it in perspective. Hang in there, Jeanne!
I agree with them Sweetie. I know first hand how much the brace can hold them back. I don't think that Lexi is doing that bad. I actually think that she will get to the things when she wants to. Chayleigh doesn't talk either. Don't feel bad. Before you know it, you will be thinking, man was there ever a time when Lexi didn't do .....?
JEANNE!!!!!!!! I wish there was something I could do or say to make you feel better, but I know there's not. First, let me tell you one observation of mine, for whatever reason, the BIO babies seem to be hitting milestones much quicker then my IRL friend's kids. As for the physical milestones, there's a medical reason Lexi isn't standing or cruising and it has absolutely nothing to do with you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I could go on and on about kids who were late to talk, walk, whatever but you would never ever in a million years guess it once they get to elementary school. I'm sending you lots of hugs because you're sad and a big hit on the back of your head for thinking that you are a bad mommy.
The rest said al I wanted to say Jeanne. You are good momma..
HUGS
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